What to Do If Your Partner Wants Kinky Sex


Sex and sexuality are significant segments of conjugal unions, uniting the sexual encounters, desires, and inclinations of two separate people. At the point when these vary between the partners, the disparity can cause strains within the relationship and trouble in keeping up association, need and desire with partner.

It is not a necessary thing that both the men and women in relationships are supposed to be similar in their personalities. Same goes for the desires of both, they will have different sexual interests. There are two sides to a coin. Either the men will be interested in BDSM/kinky wild kind of a relationship or the women.

Kinky sex has more to do with sexual practices that raise the bars of lovemaking to being intensely expressive, going from the demonstration of being energetic to paraphilic. Such BDSM sex can be amazingly excruciating and awkward for some. So, what to do if you are the uncomfortable one, and your partner wants a kinky sex. Consider following objectives in such a situation.

Listen

Listen to your partner. Do not ignore his concerns while he discusses his BDSM or kinky desires with you. Otherwise it would feel like you don't care about him. Consider listening to their request without interpreting and respect their point of view.

Figure out why he wants such thing

Before turning him down, try to understand that why he wants such kind of thing. Take a moment and ask him "why?". It might be possible that the reason he presents is something you are interested in as well, may be after figuring it out you find a good compromise for it. Another reason could be that according to him it will please you more, thus helping in having a more healthier relationship.

Communicate

After understanding him, the best thing is to communicate. It's better to talk about every aspect instead of just assuming, or accepting or a clear-cut no to any request. Communication is an obvious factor towards a successful relationship, especially when it comes to sex.

Share your Fantasies

As your partner just gathered the strength to share his fantasies with you, what could be a better time to discuss your interests? Take advantage of this little window of opportunity and discuss what you want. This sharing of romantic ideas can foster new levels of openness and intimacy as well as encourage the both of you to try new and exciting things.

Be Open-minded

It would be a very good idea if you remain open minded about something you're not sure about. Give it a shot and see whether it works out for you or not. Try compromising before turning him down.

Get a Little Kinky

It is okay to get a little kinky if you are comfortable enough, as it's just the two of you alone. There might be a possibility that the idea of what he asked turns you on.

Go Smooth

If you get convinced by what your partner wants, then go for it. But before disclosing your animal instincts try to run into it smoothly and analyze your feelings and desires.

Be Polite While Saying No

Even after trying every aspect, if you still find it something incredibly offensive or disgusting take a moment and tell your partner about your opinion. If a kinky sex is uncomfortable for you, be polite while turning your partner down. Because of course, if your partner is interested in something that is not acceptable by you, then your response will be a "No". But try not to be offensive while letting him know about your perspective.