Finding The Best BDSM Blogs


BDSM Stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. It is one of the most popular types of sex and sexualized entertainment out there. This is partially because BDSM encompasses a lot of different sexual acts from plain bondage to activities like Domination and submission and kinks.

Where do you go to learn about the world of BDSM and find all of the information that you might need?

The internet has been great place for those interested in the sexual world and that of kink. Plenty of dating sites have popped up but you want to go onto a dating site to find a partner only after you have been informed of what to expect. A demand for information on BDSM has fueled the creation of a large number of blogs around the internet. Blogs allow you to learn what to do, what not to do, learn from other's experiences, and much more. Real people write blog posts, which means that you are getting real information. With platforms such as WordPress and Blogger, you can come across thousands, if not more blogs.

From all of these blogs? How do you know which ones to choose from?

One way to get some great starter tips is to read blogs on BDSM dating sites. These sites know the basics but come with little to no, real life dating experience in the world of BDSM. This is what makes them great for learning the basics. After you have learned the basics, or if you just want to jump into an experienced practitioner's domain, you can look for blogs across the internet using Google. Look for popular blogs that are run by a reputable person or a company that specializes in that niche. Make sure that they actually have a knowledge of or practice BDSM. You can often find out about the blogging site through their about section or from reading a few posts.

Here is a great example of a blog for advice and information on BDSM. Sites like this we recommend for everyone who is interested in BDSM, no matter what level they are in.

Some Smart Tips For BDSM

Start Small

Some things that you do in life should be started with grand measures. For BDSM, that isn't true. You want to start small and work your way up from there. Small gives you room to grow and it also keeps you safe. If you jump straight into the deep end, you never know what might happen. A common problem is an emotional reaction. You can also overdo it physically. Some basic Domination is a good place to start. Spanking is often also an enjoyable place to start. Don't push it further than your partner and you are willing to go.

Experiment, Even If Nervous

BDSM is a huge world, and even the most experienced of practitioners have not tried everything. Keeping an open mind and being willing to try new things is important. You never know when you are going to find something that you like. While this is especially important for new people, it is easy to forget to try new things when you are experienced. If your partner asks to try something and it doesn't immediately interest you, it doesn't hurt to try once unless you are totally against it.

Experimenting doesn't just mean with acts. It also means with partners. Meeting new partners opens you to worlds that can be explored. Everyone likes different things and you can engage in new activities by finding others. Plus, flexibility in partners makes it easier to ask if they want to try something.

Tools For BDSM

Many different acts of BDSM require that you have tools, also known as toys. These may or may not be sex toys – depending on what kink you are exploring. Make sure that you purchase the best tools available. Tools that are made with poor quality can break and have issues during use. They can also malfunction, leaving you in quite the bind.

First time buyers of sex toys that are used in BDSM are often nervous to purchase tools. It isn't something that they really cover in the birds and the bees talk. Don't be nervous. People from all walks of life like toys and BDSM. You aren't alone.

Network With The Community

One of the best parts of BDSM is the large community that exists. Groups like Fetlife are a great place to start meeting others interested in BDSM. You don't even have to be there to meet a partner. You can go there to learn or socialize with like-minded people. Google your area and you are sure to come up with a group that isn't too far away. If there isn't, try creating your own.

Use Safewords

Safewords are codewords that can be used to refer to stop or slow down, depending on what you agree on with your partner. At the very least, when you participate in BDSM, have a safeword that means stop. It helps to make scenes more enjoyable and allows you to still say stop and no without meaning it. A safeword takes place of these words when agreed upon. A safeword should be something you wouldn't otherwise use. If you are using a word for stop and for slow down, make sure that they sound nothing like each other.

Safety First and Always

In any article that relates to BDSM tips, you should see safety listed. BDSM involves some play that can be dangerous when you don't properly learn and practice the kinks. This is why reading blogs and learning is so important.One of the most important safety tips to remember, is that you should always meet in public places for the first. That way you have a chance to gauge your partner.

Another important one, especially for Domination/submission, is that you always have the ability to say "no" or "stop". These are two important words. It is also part of the reason safewords were developed.

BDSM is a big world and by reading blogs around the internet you will start to get a grasp of the world. At the same time, we have prepared some great tips for you to get into the BDSM world. Take them to heart and learn to explore. And if you have any tips for other BDSM users, let them know in the comments down below.